Dear Coleen
A woman in her twenties seeks advice on her new relationship. Despite finding her partner attractive and interesting, she feels overwhelmed by his excessive eagerness, a stark contrast to her past experiences where she often questioned her former partners’ level of interest.
Within a short period, they have spent a weekend together, met his colleagues, family, and even the pet dog, with frequent texting between them. Uncertain about her feelings, she ponders whether she is being overly critical or if her need for personal space is justified.
Concerned about potentially hurting her partner, she contemplates suggesting a slowdown in the relationship to regain her individual space and assess her emotions. Her friends approve of him despite limited interaction, leaving her torn between the possibility of a perfect match and her need for independence.
Seeking guidance, she turns to Coleen for advice on whether to address the situation with her partner. Coleen advises open communication, expressing her feelings, and setting boundaries to maintain a healthy balance in the relationship.
In a relationship, it is essential to maintain a level of longing, avoid taking each other for granted, and sustain the excitement of courtship. Coleen suggests that a partner’s keenness should be viewed positively, contrasting it with past relationships characterized by a fear of commitment.
To manage the intensity, she recommends spacing out activities and slowing down the pace, emphasizing the importance of finding a comfortable middle ground in the evolving relationship.
She brought her candid opinions to Loose Women and now serves as Britain’s candid advisor, offering insights on issues related to sex, relationships, and life challenges.
EMAIL: dearcoleen@mirror.co.uk – apologies, personal responses are not available
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